Seduction or Seducing. What comes to mind when you hear that word. Do you see it only in the physical? Lets look at a couple definitions.
The Oxford English dictionary says …
1Entice (someone) into sexual activity.
1.1 Entice (someone) to do or believe something inadvisable or foolhardy.
1.2 Attract powerfully.
Webster Dictionary …
Definition of seduction
1: the act of seducing; especially : the enticement of a person to sexual intercourse
2: something that seduces : temptation
3: something that attracts or charms
Seduction is the process of deliberately enticing a person, to engage in a relationship, to lead astray, as from duty, rectitude, or the like; to corrupt, to persuade or induce to engage in sexual behaviour. Strategies of seduction include, conversation and sexual scripts, paralingual features, non-verbal communication and short term behavioural strategies.
So, as we can see, just like many words in the English language the definition is somewhat malleable.
Lets talk the NON-physical art of seduction. In thinking about the various posts for this week’s topic I realized that for me, seduction or my act of seducing involves much more than physical touch.
I received great pleasure and happiness from observing and participating in everyday activities that my partner enjoys. Have I lost you? Confused? Let me explain by example. I have had several relations with men that are car enthusiasts. I happen to enjoy the beauty of cars but I have experienced great pleasure by watching my partner talk about cars with others, or explaining the inner workers of an engine. In return, they find the “little bit” of me sexy and loving.
As stated in Wikipedia, the Art of Seduction can include a conversation.
Does you heart smile when your partner speaks passionately about something they love?
I am not saying you have to love What they love but you should love that talking about it, teaching you about it or visiting a place they love, should bring you pleasure. That pleasure will lead to physical intimacy. Maybe a hug, a kiss or holding hands.
From there …. Well that’s tomorrow’s topic.